Are there early warning signs of men that are better avoided?

A good rule of thumb for calling the real thing is to look at how appropriate a person is (in relationships and elsewhere). A skilled man with an eye for the subtle can feed women things so savory that they will rush back for more. When things seems too satisfying and nothing stands in the way then it's a good idea to ask if it's really real.

What kind of behaviors does he offer other than the distractingly good ones? What draws out his negative energy? His working on a selfish or exploitative agenda will tell in his nothing but positive energy for you. The real thing responds to different parts in different and fitting ways. There is reason for pause if the way he responds leaves out too many possibilities. The idea is that insincerity is a foe of spontaneity and the latter is a first cousin to being appropriate.

The narcissistic fellow is a subtler kind of problem. Why did nature make narcissistic people so charming? Their sense of magnificence makes you just want to be a part of how they feel about themselves. They are often quite bright and creative too. What's worse, many narcissistic people are good at forming close and caring relationships. So where is there a problem?

The problem is that he needs to have you in orbit around him. His very ways lure you into what feels like such a sweet dance around him. He gives a sense of possibility and connection to everything that can easily feel like it's a part of yourself. The spell can last a long time. Will he be there for you when the time comes for you to fall out of the spell he put you under? Will he offer you himself when you want him to move around you in some ways too?

Narcissism is easy to spot. When his self love congratulates you for being with him then you know his number. The number is one, not two. He is certain to be grandiose and to have a number of glorious but unfulfilled ambitions for the world. This kind of personality is sure to intrigue you and can still make a satisfying companion or mate if his self absorption is mild. So don't run away all at once.


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